Red Hawk Essentials #19

Motivation Source, UFC 286, Outdated Way of Relationships (Pt. 2)

Motivation Source

It’s important to be mindful of where your motivation source is coming from.

If you’ve seen Dana talk about his slap fighting lately, he’s been going off on the media. He says he’s happy they all think he’ll fail because it motivates him to prove them wrong.

This is an example of using the “dark side” for motivation. For me, I’ve never really saw the dark side as a sustainable motivation source.

I did use it a little when I dropped out of college to pursue MMA. My dad did not want me to drop out. My friends and other family thought I was crazy.

It made me want to prove to all my friends and family that I could become successful in fighting.

But I also knew I had to work hard to get it done. So I leaned more into my passion and love for MMA rather than trying to prove anyone wrong.

Think about it. If your only motivation is to shove someone’s words back in their mouth, you won’t be able to appreciate the journey. And how long is that going to last when you do achieve that outcome? It’ll feel good for maybe a day or a week.

Instead, I think you have to find love and passion in what you’re doing. Find motivation in appreciating the journey, improving along the way, and learning from experts.

I think that’s how you really continue to stay motivated and consistent.

UFC 286

Unfortunately, I won’t be able to catch the fights live. I’ll be in Great Falls, Montana, cornering 3 of my fighters, got a few up and coming studs. So we’re gonna watch the replay on Sunday.

I think this is Leon’s time. Kamaru was such a bad ass champion, but I think he’s just getting a little older. His knees are getting weaker and these hard training camps aren’t doing him any favors.

Leon is gonna have a lot of confidence going into this fight. I think he’ll be way more prepared than before.

I’m going with Leon by decision.

Justin Gaethje vs. Rafael Fiziev

Man, I would love to see Justin get it done, but I think Fiziev is too sharp. You can’t a mistake with that guy.

But Justin has fought everyone. He brings the fucking fight against whoever he fights, so there’s a chance he could knock out Fiziev.

If I had to pick, I’d go with Fiziev by decision.

Gunnar Nelson vs. Bryan Barbarena

My buddy Bryan Barbarena took this fight on 3 weeks notice. Gunnar is a big and experienced black belt.

But one thing I know from training with Bryan is that he’s very hard to take down. And he’s very hard to keep down.

That’s going to determine the fight. Can Gunnar take down and keep Bryan down? If not, Bryan is gonna batter Gunnar with his unorthodox striking.

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The Outdated Way of Relationships (Pt. 2)

Before you bring up conversations of an open relationship, you need to build the trust and love.

It’s important that your partner knows how much you love them and how much you mean to them. And you’re not trying to change that at all.

For the guys, maybe you can explain to your partner how your brain works. And if she really loves you, she’ll be open to at least talking to you about it.

Mariah says you have to be dating monogamous for a long time to build that trust and love. Asking for an open relationship after 2 months or something, you may as well not be dating at all.

Again, I don’t think this is for everyone. I think you need to be solid in your own relationship first. A lot of my other friends see Mariah and I’s relationship and tell me, “oh yeah, I want to get some other pussy!” But they don’t even love their girl that much.

I really appreciate Mariah for being open-mined enough to actually look into it. Because I didn’t want to break up, but I also didn’t want to fuck one girl my entire life either.

Being able to communicate with your partner is a huge deal. Emotions are gonna come up. You might want to leave the conversation. But if you guys really love each other, you’ll talk through it and see things from each other’s eyes.

But if this conversation just leads to a big fight and she just explodes and leaves…

Well, maybe you’re just not meant to be together.

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Got The Horses In The Back

Some of you might not know about the little zoo I got going on.

But on my little 2 acre property in Arizona, I got 3 dogs and 5 horses. They’re all barrel racing horses, 3 of them are owned by Mariah’s mom and the other 2 are Mariah’s. 

Mariah is a professional barrel racer and she’s constantly training them, massaging them, making sure their nutrition is good. It’s her passion so she treats them like they’re professional athletes. 

She’s also training jiu-jitsu and helping with finances at the gym. For her, she’s living the dream so that’s why our relationship works. It’s easy to get along with each other and we’re having fun.

We’ve been together for 13 years and she’s been super passionate about horses. She always does the work and never complains. In the future, would love to see her make it to the NFR and keep winning as a professional. 

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Quick Hits From This Week

2 goodies from James Clear.

“It’s rarely doing the work that is hard, it’s starting the work. Once you begin, it’s often less painful to continue working. This is why—in the beginning—it is often more important to build the habit of getting started than it is to worry about whether or not you are doing enough.”

• Getting out of bed early, getting to the gym, sitting down to do work. If you notice, these are the most painful steps, but once you’re into it, it’s not that hard anymore. This is where consistency and discipline becomes your friend.

“Imagine the outcome you want to create.

Envision where you are headed in great detail. Don’t talk yourself out of it. Don’t encourage yourself to be realistic. You will have to wrestle with reality soon enough. Don’t be your own bottleneck at this stage.

What would the magical outcome be?”

• I think this exemplifies being able to use staying in the present and visualization hand in hand. I’ll talk about it more in the future. But we really don’t know how far we can get with things, so think big. Let experience show you the answer.

Red Hawk Recap Ep. 80

Biohacking

• I’ve learned a ton from Ben Greenfield, recommend checking out his content if you want to look into biohacking. But mind you, you’re NOT gonna see the difference overnight. Like anything else, these are habits you have to start doing consistently.

Breaking porn addiction.

• Some people can control it, but other people can’t and it destroys their future. According to this expert, whenever a man is having bedroom problems, the first piece of advice he gives is to stop watching porn.

• It can be tough for some guys. Especially when you have 2-3 hours to kill, you got your phone and you got Reddit ready to rumble. But porn triggers a massive dopamine release in your brain and over time, this desensitizes you to dopamine. This destroys your motivation and appreciation for real women.

• Here’s some of the ways to break that addiction: Replace the habit. Practice self care. Delete everything. Accountability. Ask for help. Identify triggers and plan for them.

Mindset about competing.

• Every time I’ve competed, I’ve felt like I was prepared. And to get there, I needed to train hard and sometimes over-train. But when the bell rings, it’s all about following your breath. One of the best things I’ve learned from my coaches is having no emotions in the training room and competing.

When you need to learn quickly, learn from others. When you need to learn deeply, learn from experience.

• There’s a lot of genius coaches out there who’ve never competed in anything. But if they did compete, I think they’d be on another level. And sometimes it’s hard to take advice from someone like that. But I think it could work if the coach is a good facilitator. Meaning, they bring in other experts to level up their soldiers.

TimboSugarShow Ep. 230

Sug wants to fight in July.

• Could be the biggest fight card of year with Jon Jones vs. Stipe as the main event. Suga vs. Henry/Aljo/Chito would be a massive fight as a co-main.

Your children will be eternally grateful to you for choosing a mother with good values and character. Not a mother who used to be hot and has a rotten character now.

• Sug can’t imagine having a baby with anyone other than Dany. Something deep to think about.

If you want to grow as a man, invest in yourself not girls. If you’re on a date with a girl, how do you respond?

• I think some books like Mastery of Love or Ethical Slut would help you out here. Being transparent and upfront is probably the best move here. All girls that could be options for me know that I’m not looking to build another loving relationship.

Never apologize for acting like the man you are.

• With guys at the highest level, they’re a bit crazy. Look at Mike Tyson. You kinda just have to accept that craziness is why they’re so good.

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That ends it for Red Hawk Essentials #19.

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If you’re new here, welcome to the fam! We’re dropping gems like this each week.

Enjoy the fights this weekend and try to keep working consistently. Lean on that passion for motivation.

Love ya, talk next week.

Tim